Do You Suffer From Confusion?
Confusion is a success killer. Have you heard the quote: confused minds don't buy? Even worse; confused minds don't do anything. In order to be successful and move forward with YOUR dreams and desires, YOU first must have clarity about what it is that YOU want.
Some definitions of confusion:
- Uncertainty about what is happening, intended, or required.
- The state of being bewildered or unclear in one's mind about something.
- A symptom that makes you feel as if you cannot think clearly. You might feel disoriented and have a hard time focusing.
Confusion does not feel good, it makes you feel stuck and not able to move forward. Just to clarify we are NOT talking about confusion, connected with alzheimers and age related dementia, we are talking about temporary confusion.
Where does confusion come from?
For a normal human being, confusion is a temporary intellectual and or, emotional CONDITION. Where one is torn between different choices, or facts
and a resolution cannot be found at the moment.
This creates an inner conflict which arises because one cannot understand what's going on and does not know what's the next best thing to do.
This condition can arise on many levels. It can occur regarding everything from a harmless not being able to decide which menu item to order, which item to buy or, to the most important life-issues.
Do you want to leave a relationship or not, quit a job or not, commit to something or not. All this is normally preceeded by confusion.
The most important action one can take, will be to just accept the fact that you feel this way. This might sound too simple to be true and I hate to say it, yes it is. By accepting the fact that you are confused and stuck you release the conflict, or resistance which is stuck in your energy field.
This makes it possible for new creative energy to come to you, in form of intuitive ideas or subtle hints, about what would be a good choice to make. Now this is not an intellectual process, it's very intuitive.
One activity that will help is to meditate and get centered. Walks in nature and exercise are also great. Have you noticed that sometimes solutions come to you when you are relaxed and not looking for them?
It's normally hard to remember something, when you force yourself to come up with it. But when you let it go and say, ok, it will come later, it normally floats into your conscious mind. This is a great example for the process.
So practice with easy items and see if they come to you after you let go of trying to remember them. Then go to more important items and try and write them down. Journaling is always good, it helps to create more awareness and whenever you go through something similar you can look up your notes about it.
Also, when you have difficulties to decide on what to order in a restaurant, try and practice to make a choice right away without agonizing over it. Remember it really does not matter to make the perfect choice, you just want to make a choice.
With all these little actionsteps, you are practicing new behaviors. The NEW is always kind of uncomfortable, even scary, but it's the only way to get out of these patterns.
Fear always plays a role when we are confused, we are afraid to change something in life, because we do not know how it will work out and uncertainty produces fear.
But nothing in life is certain, we might have everything worked out and the next day we find out we have a desease, our partner leaves us, we have an accident and so on. So it's a good practice to trust the universe that everything will work out for the best of all concerned.
Here a simple relaxation meditation, I just learned from a brain expert.
Take a deep breath in, when you breathe out say your name, repeat this several times.
Did this help? Please let me know and leave a comment
4 thoughts on “Do You Suffer From Confusion?”
These are some great advice! It's so easy to overlook the necessity to first accept what is going on fully but that really does lessen resistance. I often find myself confused if I am too tired or overwhelmed with information for example, so then naturally I try to nap or sleep in a day. Then it is also a matter of discipline, such as deciding what to buy before going to the store and sticking to the decision (without being too rigid). Clarity is a needed competence in these days and learning how to discern by priorities. Aloha!
Thanks Alexandra for the tips, to nap or to sleep is such a wonderfully simple solution. Anybody can do it, great.
Yes, I feel confusion, absence of clarity, unsure at times. Generally, if I make a list of my goals and priorities, it helps me to have a clearer view point. It diminishes the feeling of overwhelm. (Which is age, stage, and experience related.) So, I go with the flow as much as possible. I might talk it over with someone if it's a big decision for me. As you said, it helps to get other points of view.
Great point, to talk it over with another person, is extremely helpful. Thanks for your effort and sorry that I messed up with the link 🙂