Fear Is Paralizing -Acting In Spite Of Fear Is Empowering
The places that scare us are all the old patterns, fears, emotions, memories, all the things that are too painful to look at. We stuff them away into deep drawers in our mind, close the door and pretend none of them exist. But they keep haunting us until we are willing to peek at them.
Well I have decided to open the door and say hello to my fears and my resistence. Why am I doing this right now, you might ask?
Because I know that if I don't face my fears and if I keep resisting change
- I cannot be happy
- I will not be able to achieve my life dreams
- I cannot express my creativity
Yes, change is uncomfortable, but the only way to live a creative, fun life is to go to the unknown and overcome our fears. I know, I had to go there several times in my life and I did not volunteer to do it.
But now I'm actually enjoying the feeling between total excitement and fear. All the times that I dared were the best times in my life. Those times taught me to be confident and to trust the process of life. It's empowering to go to the places that scare us and the more we do it, the more we empower our lives. I just made a major decision, to make a huge change in my life.
It took me years to finally be ok with it and start telling friends and family about it. Since I made up my mind I don't feel stuck anymore, I feel free and excited. Yes of course there are moments of doubt when panic sets in, but I have tools to calm down the fear. For example as soon as I get scared, I do one of the following things.
- Meditation
- Go for a walk and breathe deeply
- Listen to an uplifting audio program
- Call my coach
- Say affirmations
- Talk to a supportive friend
It's empowering to feel the freedom by just doing "something." Making a decision, any decision is good, you don't even have to make the "right" one. Just do it and don't focus on the outcome, this will liberate your spirit.
To let go of the safety net, is to live life to the fullest.
Fear stifles our thinking and actions. It creates indecisiveness that results in stagnation. I have known talented people who procrastinate indefinitely rather than risk failure. Lost opportunities cause erosion of confidence, and the downward spiral begins.
Charles Stanley
When I feel fearful or panicky, I write it all out. It helps me deal with it once I get it all down in writing. I see it more clearly. I hear myself thinking. I often talk to a good friend. I return to affirmations or create new ones. Yoga helps with relaxation. Not everyone has to work so hard at conquering their fears, but for those of us who do, some of these techniques can help. Walking in nature is good to distress for me, hot baths or steam, and of course, dark chocolate!
Hi Dede, thanks for your comment, I love interaction and it’s always great to hear other women’s solutions to everyday problems. I love the dark chocolate:-)